It is absolutely amazing how Christians respond to suffering. I think a lot of it has to do with what we are taught about suffering depending upon which Church we attend. Whatever end of the spectrum we find ourselves, our response to those going through prolonged suffering can simply be unhelpful. Very rarely do Christians weep with those who weep (Romans 12:15). I have had a lifetime of heartbreaking suffering, and can only count a handful of Christians who have actually wept with me. It is far more common to be corrected for having a negative attitude over the challenges in life. This simply has to stop in the Christian community and be replaced with biblical lament.